And also, just for your own awareness, it's degrading to refer to one as a human, and the other as their gender. He’s in jail now, he was in Seattle and killed a guy in a bar. I was constantly doing shit that just "wasn't my job," but...you know what. * I DO NOT OWN ANY NCIS CHARACTERS BUT MY OWN ORIGINAL. My great-grandfather was in the Navy during WW2 when one of the other sailors fell into the water. Because, like you already suspect, being on a ship out to sea is the tits. On a submarine, it's pretty frustrating sometimes. Woman is a human. Either way I feel like it's sort of what I was born to do since I've always liked to be a cog in the machine and being counted on, then satisfying is just how I like to function. Love one another while you're in the same place, then ensure you can love one another while you're separated.You both have a unique job that requires you to spend long periods of time away from your loved ones. I'm about to leave my husband and son for a 4 month school and then immediately into a deployment. Passionate about something niche? That sounds like something my grand mother would say about the waitress at a restaurant, not the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with. Trying to stay motivated to be a seaward sailor when you're just mucking about on land, "wasting your time," becomes very, very difficult. The odds are not in your favor jumping in to it at this point and you are at further disadvantage as a male should things end poorly. Browse through and read navy s fanfiction stories and books. Browse through and read navy thriller fanfiction stories and books . I stripped and waxed, painted, laid shitty vinyl tiles with industrial glue. Stay safe and thanks for your service. In some ways, its similar to prison. Another thing is if you are both young and this is your first time out of your parents it would be a good idea to wait. Each fleet has its quirks. So...if your boys figure out that something bugs the shit out of you, they will naturally do that to you over and over again for shits and giggles. But that's what I focused on - that's what I was scared of and couldn't see past. If it still feels right then plan a wedding. The commenter mentioned MMs, but they have a variety of specialties. **Veteran crisis hotline 800-273-8255 **Homeless veteran hotline 877-424-3837 **VA general info 800-827-1000** **Suicide prevention hotline 800-273-8255**. I still missed everything that I would miss out to sea. For other rates, that ship is your life. We dated for 6 years. Rate romantic short stories. That's how the ship maintains its self-reliance. If we have a big maintenance, sometimes 24-30 hours straight. Looks like you're using new Reddit on an old browser. I think I won't really have a problem with it since it just seems like the way I like to work anyway (saying this having worked my current job and routine for 2 years) but I can imagine it gets a lot less fun if there's no choice. Us ABEs, work anywhere from 16-20 hours a day depending on flight ops and maintenance. It's harder to see family, for sure. A School does something to your brain. Do you think high school students should get married? Find ways to have fun. After y'all get to your first stations and have more time off maybe you will grow apart, or maybe you'll grow closer. The other big thing is your marital status. Sign up Log in. Whether you love movies, kittens, science, kittens, politics, or kittens, Reddit’s official app puts all this (plus kittens) at your fingertips. I personally liked going out to sea as opposed to say shipyards. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the newtothenavy community. My two cents: you know her in the context of a-school. As a product of a dual mil marriage that recently ended in bitter divorce, you really have to take an objective look at your life and future. It can only move from one place or another in an enclosed space. Military: A beautiful true love story. If your relationship can survive one deployment, your odds of surviving them all greatly increase. On top of that, out to sea, you could go months wondering if your significant other was doing okay. What I learned by the end of that first set of orders was that our population in the Navy reflects what exists in the real world already - People just trying to figure out what to do in their life, and doing a difficult task while they think. The only thing I can say with any fortitude is that your attitude is what will shape your experience. I cranked. Obviously, San Diego is going to yield a vastly different experience from Norfolk or Japan. I would caution you. "It doesn’t look like you’re going to need stitches." Depends on the rate also. My biggest problem with ship life was the food. US Navy condemns discovery of hate symbols on warships, including noose left on black sailor’s bed Admiral Michael Gilday speaks at the White House in Washington on 1 April 2020. This is how our love story started. With a colorful and intuitive layout, it’s easy to browse and post to “the front page of the internet” across thousands of subreddits that cater to virtually every area of interest. Reddit is where topics or ideas are arranged in communities. I know of a few dual military couples that are still happily married. I know about half a dozen Mil-Mil couples that got married in "A" school. How about HM? Then Sasebo Japan and Guam. A continuation of the story of a guy trying to restore his life after a incident that changed him forever. I took orders to a ship at 19, and now again at 28. I ended up getting married and then sent to Hawaii, away from everyone I knew and everyone that she knew. What's your rate and how long ago did you graduate from your A-school? No matter what you choose though, and if you're ready for marriage, I wish y'all the best of luck. Sign up Log in. I am only asking because I have met someone during A-school who I think is a very good match for me with a good head on her shoulders, and we are considering marriage. Just....ugh. Reddit gives you the best of the internet in one place. At least be consistent. Funny military stories, US Navy Lighthouse story, General Reinwald, the whole nine yards, the balls of a brass monkey and more. Source: AP Then we got married and were in Yokosuka Japan and Guam. 17. You described the woman as someone you think "is a good match" and has "a good head on her shoulders". It's better to discover you two can't handle long distances while you're dating as opposed to when you're married. Getting all your quals knocked out and ahead of schedule goes a long way to a vastly improved quality of life. I think whether I like it or not I'll be able to adapt since I've always made easy friends and have lived in tight spaces just about my entire life anyway. Life underway will suck if you let it. I have a very hard time eating boat food anymore. Do you have the same views on money management? Alright now I've heard that there are tons of horror stories of men getting into relationships with navy females only to be taken advantage of and end badly.